Potty Training Basics

I am sure that you also dream about the day that your little one is potty trained every time
you try to change your running/jumping/kicking/rolling-toddler’s diaper. You long for the
day that diapers will no longer be a part of your shopping list. But just like most other
childhood-topics there are so many different products / “fail-proof methods” / expectations
that are all “the best and only way” that it can feel like potty training is a mountain that you
have to climb! I do not have the perfect recipe for potty training, but I can give you a few tips
based on anatomy, physiology and research
to help your child develop healthy toilet habits.
Be warned: there will be a lot of “dirty” talk in the next few paragraphs! 😉


For proper bladder development and healthy bowels, young children need to pee and poop
uninhibited. The sphincter muscles of the bladder and bowels are initially controlled by
primitive local reflexes only (when the urine enters the bladder a reflex allows the sphincter to
open and the bladder to contract). This is why a baby has a wet and dirty nappy after every
feed. As the brain develops, the frontal lobes suppress these primitive reflexes so that the
child can now “take control” of his sphincter actions. As with any other milestones each child
reaches this control at their own pace (within an expected range) and you should only start
potty training when your child is ready.

To be potty trained your child does not need to learn to “hold” their pee and poop, they
need to learn how it feels to have a full bladder/bowel, and they need to be willing to make
the choice to interrupt play to go and do something about it
. Toddlers are not known for
their great decision-making skills. If you start potty-training too early, they can learn
withholding behaviours which can lead to later problems such as bedwetting, constipation
or recurrent urinary tract infections (UTIs).

There is some research that suggests that it is better to potty train early (from 18months)
and that leaving it to later than 32months can cause more episodes of wetting, but these
studies did not take into account why the training was left to an older age. A study done by
Schum et al noted that most children have not yet mastered the needed skills by 18-
24months of age, and that the starting age should rather be 22-30months.
In a study in Sweden it was shown that only 31% of 2 year olds have good bladder sensation.
By the age of 3 years 79% of children had good bladder sensation.

So how will you know when your child is ready? Look for the following skills:

Physical:

  • toddler can walk and climb on the potty/toilet unaided
  • can pull his own pants down and up
  • he is aware of when he is peeing / pooping and can verbalize these concepts
  • nappy is dry for more than 2 hours
    Emotional:
  • toddler shows interest in your toilet-habits, in potties / the toilet
  • he is willing to go to the potty regularly
  • there is no signs of anxiety of using the potty / toilet

It is OK to start and then go back to using diapers if your child refuses, struggles or you get
frustrated.

“You’ll never love diapers more than the day you begin potty training”

BusyToddler.com

Preparing for potty training:
Prepare your child

  • Read books about potty training, talk about how pets also need to poo and pee.
  • Lead by example: let your child see how you and other family members use the toilet.
  • Buy underwear that will motivate and excite them.
    Prepare yourself
  • Choose a time to start when you are relaxed and can be at home with your child
  • Be realistic: accidents are common and normal. Even when you have “completed”
    potty training there will still be some episodes of pee / poo in the underwear. Expect
    this and do not make too much of a fuss over it.
  • Be patient
    Prepare your house
  • Remove any special carpets / bedding that might be damaged / make the clean-up
    process more difficult. Make sure to use a good quality mattress protector.
  • Make sure your toddler feels safe and stable when sitting on a toilet seat / potty. If
    their feet dangle, it influences the way they can activate their muscles to empty their
    bladder / bowel. If you use a toilet seat, get a low bench/step for their feet.

Constipation and potty training:
The bladder and bowels work together closely, and a problem in one area often leads to
problems in the other. Chronic constipation is VERY common in toddlers, and potty training
is often a cause for constipation as they withhold their poo for many practical and emotional
reasons. Constipation is often also the cause of problems with potty training. If your child
refuses to do number 2 on the potty, suddenly starts to poo in their pants, struggles with
bedwetting or shows any signs of withholding behaviour (running away, hiding, crossing
their legs) he is probably constipated. I have written a previous blog post about constipation, click here to find out more.

Ready, steady, potty! Some more tips:

  • Make it fun, use a reward system/star chart for every successful potty-visit.
  • Schedule routine potty-visits during the day to become a part of their normal routine
    eg when waking up, before meals. Let them practise to sit on the potty for a few
    minutes, first with all their clothes on, then bare-bum.
  • Boys should also sit on the potty initially. Once the other concepts of potty training
    are mastered, you can transition to standing.
  • Never punish a child for accidents.
  • Never force a child to sit. If he refuses to sit on the toilet / potty, rather back off and
    try again in a few weeks.
  • Prevent Urinary Tract Infections (UTI) by regular toilet visits, preventing constipation,
    avoiding bubble baths.
  • If your child does not want to use public restrooms, try to use a portable toilet seat at
    home that you can then also use in public restrooms.
  • Let them sit on the toilet facing the open lid and give them a white-board marker to draw while they sit.

“…being strengthened with all power according to His glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience.”

Colossians 1:11
  • Whether you choose to do the three-day boot camp or a more gradual approach, if you
    follow these basic guidelines, potty training should be a positive experience for both you and
    your toddler! I will discuss enuresis (bedwetting) in the next article. Please share your potty-
    training wins and bloopers with us!

Resources:

  1. Schum TR, et al. Factors Associated with Toilet Training in the 1990s. Ambulatory Pediatrics. 2001;2:79-
    86.
  2. Jansson UB, Hanson M, Sillén U, Hellström AL. 2005. Voiding pattern and acquisition of bladder control
    from birth to age 6 years–a longitudinal study. J Urol. 2005 Jul;174(1):289-93.
  3. Tips from Steve Hodges MD (Pediatric urologist)
  4. https://www.parentingscience.com/potty-training-problems-prevention.html

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